This is a really special day for me. The 1st part of a life long journey is coming to a close. Today is the official close of the Newfield Coach Training Program.
I have been blessed to take part in one of the top coaching programs in the world. I started in October 2013 with so many questions about what was going to happen. What exactly was ontological coaching, Would I like it? Could I actually do this? Would I be any good at it? I did the 1st part of the program through the University of Calgary and I did the actual Coach Training portion in Colorado. Along the way I have met so many amazing people who have taught me so much. Not just about Coaching but also about myself. I know I have found my true calling, every hour I have spent coaching has been so rewarding. I’m so grateful for all of the support I have had to get to this point.
Coaching is a true service profession and I love knowing that I will be able to spend my time in service to others. I believe we are all whole and complete beings with all the strength and resources we need. Sometimes we get stuck and a powerful conversation can help clear the path to new possibilities for action. Having the opportunity to be a part of those conversations is a gift.
The future is so bright and I’m excited to take the next step.
This is the 2014 graduating class of The Newfield Network Coach training program 🙂
In order to be who you are, you must let go of who you think you are. – Michael Singer
I stopped updating how my phone withdrawl was going because it was going so well! I really didn’t feel bothered on Wednesday, Thursday or Friday. I turned my phone back on Friday after work and still haven’t really looked at it. I’m happy and relieved to know that I wasn’t as hooked as I thought. I’m still going to be mindful about using my phone to avoid being present or feeling bored. One thing I really noticed was how feeling bored wasn’t as boring as I thought it would be.
Made it through day 2 in good shape! The anxiety of missing something is subsiding a little bit. I went a for a walk at lunch and just spent some time with no phone, no book, no work, no nothing. As I was eating lunch I was surprised how quiet I felt. I wasn’t being bombarded by information or distracting myself from the moment. I felt a bit bored, but in a really good way.
You know that feeling that you have either forgotten something or that perhaps your fly is open? That’s the best way to describe today. I made it through better then I thought I would. I felt an underlying anxiety that something would happen and I wouldn’t have my phone on me, but nothing happened 🙂
I’m ready for Day 2
Well let me clarify that a bit. My Body Mass Index (BMI) says I’m overweight based on my height and weight. It should be 25 or lower but it’s still a bit outside that range, by 0.5 to be exact. I have had a goal to weigh 160lbs for about 4 years. 160lbs is at about the 75% of the healthy range of BMI or 23.0, If I want to be really healthy I need to weigh 150lbs!
Let me back up a bit. In 2010 I weighed 206 lbs and I felt really bad. I had just turned 36 and I wasn’t happy with how I looked and felt. Becky and I hit nutritional ‘rock bottom’ on a trip to Las Vegas. The kinds of food we were eating, the portions and the size of a lot of the people around us was overwhelming. We decided it was time for a change. Over the course of the next 6-8 months we each lost about 40lbs and we did that using this crazy technique called Moderation 🙂 We made smart food choices and put an emphasis on regular exercise. I became a pretty avid runner.
The least I ever weighed was 162lbs and that was very fleeting, I settled around 170 for the next couple of years. During the course of a pretty stressful year I gained back some of the weight. I was 186lbs in September 2013. I had gained back half of the weight I originally lost and again I felt really bad about myself and vowed to make a change. This time I used my BMI as my gauge of success, and success would be 160lbs.
I go to the gym 5 times a week before work. I really enjoy my routine, I feel so awake and ready to go when I get to work. Physically I can easily say I’m in the best shape of my life, I weight 172lbs.
Still too heavy, my BMI says I gotta lose more weight. I actually started thinking that if I want to lose those pesky 12lbs I will have to stop lifting weights and up my cardio… also it might be time to try a cleanse or a more formal diet. OKay now I can feel I’m moving into a bit more obsessive type thinking. One moment I’m feeling so good physically and feeling good with how I look in a t shirt and the next I’m considering undoing the very activities that helped me so I can reach a goal that came from my BMI.
On e day I was clicking around Netflix and found a documentary called ‘America The Beautiful 2‘. I had seen the cover a million times but never checked it out. Well it’s a documentary about BMI and how BMI is BS! The argument being that BMI does not measure health. In fact it was never meant to be a measure of health. It was developed to measure the average sizes of large populations. Somewhere along the way BMI has become the defacto measure of how healthy a person it. Check out how many BMI calculators there are on the iTunes App Store.
In 1999 the BMI for what is considered healthy was lowered from 28 to 25. This was in response to what “experts” felt was an impending obesity crisis. Coincidentally a couple of these experts also sat on the Board of Directors for Weight Watchers… no conflict of interest there.
BMI is not an indication of health, this was my mistake all along. Had I continued focusing on BMI as the true guide for my health I could very likely have developed an eating disorder or some other harmful habits to help me hit that goal. The number is so arbitrary and it’s insidious because it is presented as a true measure of health.
I’m so grateful that I found this Documentary when I did, I think Becky was grateful too, she could tell I was slipping into more obsessive behavior, moderation wasn’t enough, now I needed something more immediate. I’m not sure exactly what percentage of my time was spent thinking about my weight but it was a lot. I wasn’t focused on my health anymore, just a number. It’s kind of ironic that the weight lifted off of my shoulders by not caring about BMI is so much more then the 12lbs my BMI made me feel I needed to lose to be “Healthy”.
Would I like to look like a UFC fighter with 3% body fat? Yes for that one week a year I’m in Mexico with no shirt on I think 3% body fat would be amazing. However for me that lifestyle needed to maintain that is not realistic. I want to feel good in my own skin and above all I want to have a long and HEALTHY life. That’s a bit different that leading a thin life.
I like the 80/20 rule. 80% good healthy lifestyle choices and 20% Cheezies 😉